Thank fuck that’s over. Final day at work today and the stand-out moment was having a ridiculous man-child tell me in front of an audience that he couldn’t wait for me to go, while very obviously holding himself back from causing me physical harm. I mean, I get it: how dare I articulate the expectation that he actually do his job? Silly me. On the upside, I did get to let him know that I couldn’t wait to see the back of him too. If he was upset before that moment, he was positively seething when I turned and walked off on his next attempt to justify the title I gave him at the start of this paragraph.
*Huge sigh of relief* Again: thank fuck.
I took myself out to dinner tonight – a restaurant I’ve been wanting to check out for a while, a celebration for putting some spectacularly bad work experiences behind me. I’m on my third beer now. It’s been a fairly sub-par day, and I’m doing okay.
And being okay? That’s a reminder. I do pretty well on my own.
Which brings me to The Relationship. My lover said something recently about his work, and about how if he leaves there now he feels like it will be his choice (rather than something that is imposed on him by external circumstances). And I’m giving today kudos for reminding me that being in a relationship with my lover is my choice.
I’ve had a couple of things that, in my head, have been waiting on him. Pregnancy is one. The reality is that if it’s not the right time to have conversations about it or make plans about it for him then I am responsible for making choices about whether or not that fits in with what I want for myself. I’m tired of waiting for him to start a conversation. Quite frankly, I am not okay with feeling that I am pushing this decision on someone else. I want my partner to be as excited about the prospect of getting pregnant as I am. I want them to lead discussions and not just join in with them.
That’s not an easy place to be in right now. But that is the reality.
And, no matter what happens, I am going to be okay.