He has been in the process of applying for a new job for months. Not putting a heap of applications in and not getting results – applying for one single job. As is apparently typical for his industry, and particularly for international appointments, this has already dragged on for more than six months.
In that time, I have applied for and gotten a new job. I’m performing a new role on top of the role I was originally offered. I’ve been with the new company for a little over four months.
Again, as is typical for his industry, he is the only applicant for the job. By all accounts, his experience and particular skill set are desperately needed there. Still, we wait.
I’m calling bullshit. I can decide to leave my job and have a new role lined up in a really short period of time (a couple of weeks is usual, but circumstances in the past have made that as short as a few days) – and yes, I work in a highly skilled industry.
Once quite excited about potentially moving to a country that neither of us have visited (neither of us was born in the country we now live in, having each made the decision to move here on our own and somehow having made that decision work), I’m starting to talk myself out of it. Primary issue: my professional opportunities. Basically, they’re extremely limited to the point of being non-existent in the country we’re considering moving to.
He needs a new job. The longer this process takes, the more I’m talking myself out of it. Can’t he find a new job somewhere here? There’s a particular organisation he could work for that would make his working in my home country a possibility, and a return home would increase my abilities to live and work in other places around the world. Sounds good to me, except that the reality is that his very specific skill set is not required anywhere else in this country and nowhere at all in my home country.
Either way, one of us needs to take a step back professionally.
Is this why people choose to stay where they’re unhappy? – because at least then you’re not making a choice that will result in increased unhappiness?
Again I’m calling bullshit. There’s got to be a plan C that we’re just not seeing yet. I’m hoping plan A (following his work around the world) falls through so that we’re better positioned to discover what it could be.